I have had a talk with one of my friend recently, who is father of 2 small kids. At present they living in one of the English country and planning to move to an Asian country. I was surprised about his decision and was asking, why like that? His answer was revealing real worry of parent, who will be most concern about their children. Present culture of English require, a boy need girl friend and girl need boy friend. If you don't have that, people think that you came from some different planet. Also premature sexual habits are increasing rapidly in this culture, which will be more troublesome for a parent as well as child. Another fact he was saying, parents can't punish their own children. If they punish and came to know by somebody, then social service will take them to their care home and wont give back to parents. I was surprised with this statement. As far as I know, most English countries protect people's privacy very strictly. But a parent doesn't have right to punish his/her children? Reasonable punishing is must at growing stage for good reason, when advising fails. It will develop / lead a good character. If parent doesn't have right for that, then why they trying to protect the privacy?
Having children can be very rewarding. You will share beautiful moments, laughter and love. But raising children in today's world is full of pitfalls and can leave parents over-stressed and just plain exhausted. One of the hardest things about parenting is agreeing on how to be parents. You and your spouse have to agree to a reasonable degree on many issues, most especially discipline. Without such agreement life can be very confusing and inconsistent for the children. Grandparents can offer enormous value by sharing the wisdom of long experience. After all, they have raised children before and most parents will want to believe they did a good job. For such advice to be valuable, however, it has to be delivered at the right time and in the right way.
The most excited stage of a married couple is right from the pregnancy stage till the growing up stage of their child. When real parenting starts, it is a mixture of excitement as well as anxiety. Then anxiety stage grows over excitement. It starts right from the character development and never ends. People says, if parents have good moral, children can adopt it. But when you look at the surroundings, where the children grows it actually convince them than their parents. Because, when child feels, he/she became grown up they start imitating somebody else than their parent. Some picks good character, some pick bad. It depends on the society and culture, where they grow up.
When you look at our present world, there are no morals we can find. The world is now running behind something else, which they themselves don't know. Those good old days, both parents were part of the character build of a child. Now, either of them at a time, but can't be together as they both meet at very rare time. Parents running to build up the family and children, and the lack of time to give attention to their children making big differences in the characture build. If you were 10% naughty at your child hood stage, then your child will be 70% naughty. If you grasped things slowly, the new generation grasps it faster than anybody. Regular fights/quarrels of parent in front of their children will make them to think that, their parents don't have time to take care of them. We says, be careful on our words, once thrown, cannot take it back and may bite back you. The same applies at the growing stage of child. They adopts your words. Just think, how children learning the language. Learning of mother-tongue is a data transfer from mouth to mouth.
Patience, that is the most important character for a parent need. It must need till the end of your life. Second, spend more time with your children and make it to be together with( if possible ) and answer your child's questions carefully. Growing stage of a children have lots of questions in their mind. They are anxious to know everything what they see, feel etc. When you ready and open mind to talk to them, they are more happy to approach you. If you are close minded when they approach with questions and you show uncomfortable, then they find someone else, which may then decide take control of their life. Like a good friend, always be ready to answer their queries and help them when they stuck. Ask them to learn, how they going with their life. At the same stage, you must make them understand that how you grow up and what was the circumstances. They must know the difficulties and troubles you faced to grow them up. I believe, that will keep them driving that, "my parent suffering a lot to place me at good level and I shouldn't disappoint them".
In short, parenting is a precious stage of a person, who leads a family life. Good communication and patience is necessary to move forward.
Having children can be very rewarding. You will share beautiful moments, laughter and love. But raising children in today's world is full of pitfalls and can leave parents over-stressed and just plain exhausted. One of the hardest things about parenting is agreeing on how to be parents. You and your spouse have to agree to a reasonable degree on many issues, most especially discipline. Without such agreement life can be very confusing and inconsistent for the children. Grandparents can offer enormous value by sharing the wisdom of long experience. After all, they have raised children before and most parents will want to believe they did a good job. For such advice to be valuable, however, it has to be delivered at the right time and in the right way.
The most excited stage of a married couple is right from the pregnancy stage till the growing up stage of their child. When real parenting starts, it is a mixture of excitement as well as anxiety. Then anxiety stage grows over excitement. It starts right from the character development and never ends. People says, if parents have good moral, children can adopt it. But when you look at the surroundings, where the children grows it actually convince them than their parents. Because, when child feels, he/she became grown up they start imitating somebody else than their parent. Some picks good character, some pick bad. It depends on the society and culture, where they grow up.
When you look at our present world, there are no morals we can find. The world is now running behind something else, which they themselves don't know. Those good old days, both parents were part of the character build of a child. Now, either of them at a time, but can't be together as they both meet at very rare time. Parents running to build up the family and children, and the lack of time to give attention to their children making big differences in the characture build. If you were 10% naughty at your child hood stage, then your child will be 70% naughty. If you grasped things slowly, the new generation grasps it faster than anybody. Regular fights/quarrels of parent in front of their children will make them to think that, their parents don't have time to take care of them. We says, be careful on our words, once thrown, cannot take it back and may bite back you. The same applies at the growing stage of child. They adopts your words. Just think, how children learning the language. Learning of mother-tongue is a data transfer from mouth to mouth.
Patience, that is the most important character for a parent need. It must need till the end of your life. Second, spend more time with your children and make it to be together with( if possible ) and answer your child's questions carefully. Growing stage of a children have lots of questions in their mind. They are anxious to know everything what they see, feel etc. When you ready and open mind to talk to them, they are more happy to approach you. If you are close minded when they approach with questions and you show uncomfortable, then they find someone else, which may then decide take control of their life. Like a good friend, always be ready to answer their queries and help them when they stuck. Ask them to learn, how they going with their life. At the same stage, you must make them understand that how you grow up and what was the circumstances. They must know the difficulties and troubles you faced to grow them up. I believe, that will keep them driving that, "my parent suffering a lot to place me at good level and I shouldn't disappoint them".
In short, parenting is a precious stage of a person, who leads a family life. Good communication and patience is necessary to move forward.
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