Sunday, February 8, 2026

The Unspoken Departure

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Their friendship didn't need rules or formal talk. Maybe it was just meant to be, but as they worked together every day, she found herself drawn to him. He was a simple man. Usually, when people brought sweets back from trips, he didn’t care much. But one day, a surprise gift of candies arrived just for him. She had sent them from her office without him even knowing. It was a small, quiet sign of how she felt.

They never really thought they would meet in person, but then one day she said, "I’m coming to see you." He was so happy to finally see the person he had only known through work. When she arrived, he did everything she asked for. He wanted her to have everything she wished for, and he did it gladly. Not because he can't deny, but he didn't want to disappoint her.  That was his nature.  Those who goes to him, he tries his best not to disappoint.  When she left, he felt a deep emptiness, but their bond felt even stronger. They became the kind of friends who could talk about anything in the world. Even though they didn't talk much outside of work hours, it felt like their hearts were always in conversation.

When she said she was coming back a second time, they were both overjoyed. It’s funny how life works—when we expect too much, we usually end up disappointed. But when something wonderful happens out of nowhere, the joy is hard to describe. In fact, that's his policy; never expect anything from anybody.  He didn't know what to call their relationship, but he thought about it often.  

This time, she only had two small wishes, and he made them happen easily. But she still wouldn't answer his one big question: "How did I win your heart?" He knew he hadn't done anything special to impress her. He wasn't a man of smooth words or bold moves. He just wanted to know why she chose him. She didn't answer; she only gave him a mysterious smile. He was too kind-hearted to understand what that smile meant. To him, life was simple: if someone needs help and you can do it, you do it.

When they said goodbye this time, they both felt a heavy sadness. They weren't sure if God would give them a chance like this again. She had once told him, "I don't want anything from you," but their lives had become so connected that those words didn't feel true anymore.

Soon, things began to change. She started saying, "I need to slowly move away from this." He could feel her pulling back. She is a strong lady with the power to do her will, not to suffer herself.  She used to reply to everything he said, but now, she only replied when she felt like it. She started ignoring his messages, even though she still tried to show him he was "important." Her promises to talk once a week were broken because she "didn't have time."

People usually feel sorry for women in these situations, but what about a kind man’s heart? Nobody sees his pain, and nobody offers him comfort. In today’s world, people would simply say "she started ghosting him."

Still, he never blamed her. He told himself that she is a married woman with a lot of responsibilities at home. He made up excuses for her to make himself feel better. He chose to forgive her every time she neglected him.

Now, she is moving on to a better stage in her life. She is leaving without ever answering his question. Even though his heart is hurting, she gives him the empty comfort of saying, "We can still talk later." He tried calling her many times, but there was always some reason why it didn't work out.

He believes that if God brought them together, there must be a good reason why God is pulling them apart now. He struggles to find peace in one thought because he never went looking for her. She came looking for him, and he gave her all the happiness and comfort he could. Maybe that was his only purpose. He console himself with this words, that he did what others want.  So, don't expect anything in return.

As I look at his face—full of memories and still waiting for a phone call that might never come—I don't know what to say. I don't know how to comfort a heart that is hurting so quietly.

Wednesday, February 21, 2024

Love's Metamorphosis: From Butterflies to Butterflies with Rings

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Imagine love as a magnificent butterfly, flitting through different stages of life. Just like we blossom and evolve, so do the relationships we hold dear. It's not magic; it's a beautiful transformation.

The Lover: A Blossoming Bud of Affection

Remember the early days? Every fluttering glance, every shared laugh felt like magic. You listened intently, finding amusement in even the mundane. Your lover became your confidante, a shoulder to cry on, a voice of reason. But this delicate bud held a secret yearning - the security of a shared promise, a legal bond.

The Wife: A Bud Taking Root

Marriage adds a powerful layer to love. The "knowing distance" softens, replaced by the confidence of commitment. But life rarely runs smoothly. Moments arise when needs go unmet, sparking questions and frustrations. Here's where compassion is key. Remember, your wife isn't just demanding; she's expressing anxieties, hoping for understanding. Just like the lover who cherishes the positive, remember the root of your love, nurture it with empathy.

The Art of Listening: A Bridge of Understanding

True connection hinges on listening. Not just hearing words, but feeling the emotions behind them. Recall those confused new joiners at your office. A simple conversation, a genuine effort to understand their anxieties, transformed their perspectives. Remember, behind every question, every frustration, lies a story waiting to be heard. Lend an ear, not just for your wife, but for everyone in your life. It's a gift that builds bridges of understanding and strengthens the bonds of love.

From Butterflies to Butterflies with Rings:

Love's journey is a dance of change, not a static picture. Embrace the different stages, nurture them with compassion and understanding. Remember, the butterflies of new love can mature into beautiful butterflies with rings, their wings stronger, their bond deeper, all thanks to the nurturing power of listening and empathy.

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