Game of Survival

Today I learned one of my ex-colleague ( since, I worked with many companies, hope very few may recognize only who is this girl ) got married recently with her boyfriend. It was not surprise news at all in this current world/culture. But if you know the girl in one shot, it will be surprise news.

In her first outlook, she is the master brained girl of flirting. Whoever, good looking single man, she meets try to start flirt with them. She is very beautiful, small in height and weight. Though she was working with me, I met her accidentally and she tried her flirt on me too.

What if you meet a girl, who is smart in flirt? You may flirt with her, as long as one of you make a full stop to this. There are two kinds of flirting girls. First group's aim is only to enjoy the life before marriage and leave all of their boy friends and marry one, their parents choose ( in Indian tradition, parents finds the girl/boy for their son/daughter). Second group is the real survivors. They flirts to get their good life partners.

I had a friend, whom I met once I was on duty in her company. All of her colleagues that time warned me, never ever make any kind of friendship with her. She is dangerous. But, I didn't care that, because I know, I may change their life style or may help them in some other way. Though she left her original job and found different, we both were in touch and often meets. Every weekends she ran away to some distant places, but only myself knew where she goes, but nobody knew for what she goes. I asked many times, she kept quiet. After few months, we became busy in our work life, and the gap between us increased such a way, didn't know she went back her home town and got married. When her marriage fixed, she had cut off all her past relationship because, she wanted a peaceful life with her partner. I knew about her family background earlier and she comes under the first category of group.

This girl, I felt earlier, she is only flirting as time-pass like my friend. But, I started thinking something, once when I asked her about her family. She hasn't shown any interest to tell about her family. There I suspected something and guessed there must be some problems. Today I knew that she has 4 sisters, father passed away few years back and financially very pathetic.

In Indian culture, parents find the boy for their daughters and girl's parents must have good financial aid to conduct the marriage. Otherwise it is terrible for them. For this girl, father passed away and financially too unstable, I realized her flirting is for her survival. Since she is smart and intelligent, she started flirting to find her life partner, who shall be always with her. Yes, she won on her selection. I guess, she may have flirted with huge number of boys. I really appreciate the good mind of her husband, whom knows about his wife very much and accepted her.

If you view her life as all public does, you says she is very bad person. In her good age, enjoyed much and flirted with most of the boys. You will say this, because you are either not interested to learn her life or you don't know anything about her. If you change your view and try to find, why she does this, you will really appreciate her. As I know, though she fixed this man ( husband ) as permanent, she had huge list ready for next, if he leave her forever. Because, she knew the struggles and pain of her family, how her mother suffering with the four girls to get them married. Now, the future is in her hand. Though she is the younger in that family, hope she may take initiative to find a person for her sister.

This is the highly riskiest game of survival. If you are not ready to take the risk in your life, there is no survival. I really appreciate her courage and intelligence and praying God to give her all good in the life.