My Friend

Note: The character is alive and is real. This article is only to analyze yourself.

I met her in 2003 thru internet community. It was a question about her upcoming
exam and my reply to her, started our relationship. I told her to inform me about the exam.
She passed it with a good percentage and become a certified professional like me. She is a
brilliant girl, let me call her as Neelima, and has an intention to acheive her goals. Days
passed and our communication gone out the community and started telephonic. She just
finished B.E in Computer, with high grade and completed this valuable certification and was
desperately trying for a job in the networking feild. Since I am related to that field, our
relationship grown day by day. That time, I didn't have cell phone and she used to call on
my room-mate's cell. Whenever she attended an interview, that night we discussed about the
interview thru phone. Her consulting, clearing the doubt and the leaning point was me.
since she is a brilliant girl, she got selected almost all places, but was unsatisfied with
each places, because her focus was not matching with the requirement. Finally joined a call
center, which I advised her not to, but was showing her standalone decision. It lasts only
3 months.

Oneday, on our usual talk, I asked her, "I heard, delhi girls are very tricky. Is
it right?". This made her angry and disconnected the line. After a few days, I tried to
cal her, she is not picking up any of my numbers. All my attempts she denied. But God
given me a way to continue the relation. Everyday, I was praying for her. It is a hurting
thing to me, a person leaving from me, without informing anything. Through my other
connections and they explained her about the fact, she again started to talk to me as usual,
but puts a restriction/keeps me behind the limit. I thanks to all of them, who tried to
keep it as normal. Our relation was growing. Whenever she needs a decision, she comes to
me. I tried to help her at my best. Finally she decided to join to the main frame course.
Even if, she is not interested in the s/w feild, she made up her mind to go that feild for
better future. I enquired about it and advised from here, far from her. Even though, we
talks regularly, after 3 years only we met each other. I even doesn't have her photo, but
she saw my picture on internet.

After her studies, she got a job at Bangalore. She was not ready to move from her
native place, but for her career she accepted. Her Bangalore life made somany changes in
her life too. She, such person, was trying continuously for her ultimate destination.
Finally, she got an offer from one of the world's largest credit card, companies, software
section. That makes her happy, was not completely. The package was good, but her aim was
not acheived. But two things made her happy there. A come back to her native place and the
good company. During the Bangalore life, she came to my place, but hadn't informed me and
couldn't meet us. Her character was changing. The very first, two times, I felt, she is
really loving me and I asked about that, but denied. There was a doubt in mind for long
time, and got cleared recently.

The new life, new friends, new culture are changed her a lot. I was asking about
her marriage, since she is the eldest daughter in her family. She said, "my company needs
me for a long time, not thinking about a marriage now". That was a clever-matured answer.
I was very happy about her and her happiness was reflecting each of her words. I was
thankful to God, for her happiness. After we met, for very first time, she given me another
happy news. She got selected to go abroad for a month or long, for her project. That makes
her as well as me, much happier. I was proud about my friend. She was getting busy and
busiest day by day and I could get in touch with her, before leaving to abroad. Her changes
was reflecting from her words.

I was sure about her, because she is a kind of girl, can mingle easily with anybody.
She did well at abroad too. We used to contact thru internet chatting and sent me her
photos at different locations and talked aloat about her new trips, new site seeing and
activities at her working place. She was changing more and more. The conversations really
going like a flirting level. Her passion was changing in such a way that, she need whatever
she wants and she won most of the time. Or can say, I failed, because, I don't want to
loose her again. She was talking like a small child, and was screaming for the things, she
liked. She then starts talking about a guy, who is proposing to her for the marriage and
showed his photo. She was in a run to acheive her all goals and wanted to grab everything
she liked. Her mood changed immediately and she wanted to be settled down and the husband
should be a good guy and should be down to earth. I told her then your life won't be happy.
Because I knew her well. She again prompt me, and try to find my mind. Told me, she met a
foreigner and he invited her for dinner and is going. I told her, good, you got a new
company. She grasped somany things from there and was imitating their culture. That made
her in trouble too.

Returning to India was a happiness to me too. Her new knowledge and the new life
style I understood well. She was in such a spirit that, she can go anywhere with anybody.
After a month of her return, she called me. I was busy due to the death of one of our
employee in the bomb blast. Our talks were gone beyond limits, arguements was going on, but
I really enjoyed that and hopefully she too. After a month of that, I called her. She was
sleeping and I disturbed her. She was tired after a trip at Dehradun and was ready to go
another trip to Bihar with her PM. I was grasping from her words to say something. I
wanted to advise her, but I knew, she may not listen me. She was in the verge of out of
control, but she never knew that. I told her, we have a culture, never leave that.
Whatever your parents tells, obey them first. They always find the good for us, they never
tell bad things to us. We are now upto this stage is because of our parents, not our
dignity. She was accepting it. But, her acceptance, I couldn't believe it as the complete
one. But, I don't want to leave her in that stage. Still she has a chance to comeback, if
she realized my words and found her guilty. She was on the verge of crying, I felt. But
she never expressed that. She said "I am a bad girl. Shib, let me think silently. You are
the right one, you are the good friend". I said, " I am taking a full power to scold you,
as you are my friend. If I did a mistake, pls forgive me". She replied, "You are good
friend. Good friend can only scold, find the goods and bads of us. You did a good job". I
hopes she will come back as normal, like me or ourselves.