Feeling secure ?

I recently had a conversation with one of my friends' family. They are from Kerala -- God's own country -- a state of India, and is living now in India's financial capital, Mumbai, of their own flat. Both are professional and have two kids. While on discussion with current affairs and other matters, the conversation turned to the security of the present life. Once, on their annual visit to their home village, they went to some other place and was returning to their home. It was too late and is normal at villages, people were sleeping near around 9:30 pm. Only street lights there. They got a last bus to their village, unfortunately, they didn't have any idea, the bus would be upto which place. On its last service, at it last point, the bus people told them, its service upto here and you can carry on with any other taxi vehicles. It was almost 15 min. journey from that stop. They don't know what to do or how to go? No sign of taxi vehicles at road. They spent almost half an hour stranding at road. Finally, they got a rickshaw, which stopped, when the driver went with his customer, this family were in the road. When he returned, they still there. That is why they got the rickshaw. While explaining this, they are telling, living in flat and in city feels more secure than at village. Is this true? I cannot agree.

There is big difference in living in city at in village. City life is that, anybody can go any time to anywhere. But, village life, you should be controlled your trip depends on the availability of transportation and other sources, unless you have / travelling own vehicle. The importance of joint family comes here.

Life in Flat vs Joint Family

When you are living in a flat concept of city life, you have lots of neighbours around you. Your building will have security and you need to obey the rules and regulations of the soceity, which you belongs to. The incumbent of the flats in the building, would be different and their nature would be different. Your childrens can play only at the specific places, they assigned as playground. Most of the playgrounds would be prepared for the specific purposes of specific sports. If your kids want to play in mud, there may not be that. Inside house, there would be limitations, if anybody comes as visitor and they supposed to stay for a day. The entrance to the home would be single and there is no other door to come inside to the home, if anybody else like helpers or workers of the home comes. Your windows will be opened to the neighbours.

But, in a joint family or a life at village, you would have huge space for your house. Your house will be like a farm house. In joint family the concept is like this. Brothers are staying together in same house with their parents and family. Childrens can enjoy much more. There will be a huge group of childrens and somebody must be there to guide and their childhood would be a great remembrance. If anything happens to any of the family members, every would be there to take the responsibility of the house as well as the person. So, it is more secured than other kind of living structure. But individual families living in independent, farm-house, have some risky on this kind. If any help they needed, they have to suffer. But they will experience to live in their own risky situations. And the childrens of this families are really living close to the nature, so that they know, what to do in each situations. There would be somebody to guide thru the moral life.

Present living structure has less security compared to the older days. Especially in cities, if anything happeneds to anybody, nobody will take the risk to care that person. Even people don't know, what is happening to man sitting or walking beside to him. All are shrinking with their own business. People are more keen to establish the strong money background. They are considering a big place to money in their life. They don't have time to take care about others. They believe in the club culture and hi..... bye life. All are talking about and more concern about the celebrity lifes, not their kids. They don't have time to take care about their kids, but spends more time with their pets. This affects their childrens more and they criminal mind is established much faster. If everybody thinks in a same way, then what is the meaning of the life and the community? Increasing population and changing life style are put axe to the security of life.